We are all influenced by the experiences we have gone through - both good and bad. We learn how to survive and cope with the things that have hurt us and how to get our needs met and take care of ourselves. Counselling is a space where we can learn about ourselves, about why we behave as we do, about what internal processes are influencing our behaviour.
Often we are reacting unconsciously to people and situations as if they were situations from our past and this can repeat problematic patterns in our lives. It is hard to leave behind our past experiences and often they have been painful, involving loss and trauma. Often the mere process of bringing these processes into our conscious awareness is enough to start the process of change. Working with a compassionate therapist can help us to look at ourselves through a new lens and opens up new ways of being.
I worked for many years as a qualitative researcher, initially working in business and subsequently running my own healthcare research company. After 20+ years it felt time for a change. As a researcher I have always been fascinated by what makes people behave in certain ways. So in 2006 I retrained, initially as a psychologist and subsequently as a relationship therapist.
My interest in relationship therapy has developed as I've come to see that the most important relationship of all is the one we have with ourselves. How we feel about ourselves determines how we interact with others and in turn affects the quality of our friendships and relationships. Through my own experiences I have become passionate about understanding what it is that makes relationships succeed or fail and to help couples and individuals understand more about how to have happy, rewarding relationships.
If you'd like to know more about me.....
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